Could Covid be the moment we finally slow down (in a good way)?

Trust me, this isn’t what I had in mind.

As the unofficial “godfather of the Slow Movement,” I’ve spent the last 15 years traveling the world to sing the praises of slowness. Urging people to reconnect with their inner tortoise. Calling for deceleration on a global scale.

Well, careful what you wish for ….

The Covid-19 pandemic has certainly forced the world to slow down – but not in a good way.

Like most of you, I’m finding the lockdown hard. It’s a rollercoaster: good days followed by less good ones, then a little jump, maybe a plateau, another dip, then back up again. Wash. Rinse. Repeat. It’s exhausting and demoralising. 

And I’m one of the lucky ones, with good health, a roof over my head and food on the table. The Covid crisis is causing far greater hardship to those with less.

But even in this bleak moment there can be a silver lining. As someone (possibly Winston Churchill) once said: “Never let a good crisis go to waste.” 

Translation: if we learn the lessons of this pandemic, we can make the world a much better place for everyone. 

Let’s not waste this moment of mandatory slowness. Let’s use it to rethink and redesign our lives. To rediscover the many upsides of slowing down. 

Here are five ways to use the lockdown to do just that:

1. Devote more time to simple, slow pursuits: reading, playing board games, cooking and baking, making art and music, meditation.

2. Reconnect with the people you love. Online or in person (where safe).

3. Rest and sleep more. Do things simply for the joy of doing them. Or sometimes do nothing at all.  Be proud – not ashamed – of doing less, of streamlining your To-Do list to focus on what’s important.

4. Reflect on how to transform your life after the crisis. Grapple with those big questions: Who am I? What really matters to me? How can I be a better friend, parent, partner, boss, neighbour, employee, citizen?

5. Find ways to help those less fortunate than you. If this pandemic proves anything, it’s that the world is a better place when we slow down and help each other. As the old proverb goes: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

Bottom line: the slowness forced upon us by the pandemic can be a great gift – if we embrace it.

Slow in the time of Covid-19

A darkness has descended and we are all suffering. My heart goes out to each and every one of you.

In times of crisis, though, I always look for the silver lining, the jiu-jitsu move that will turn the downside into upside.

The COVID-19 pandemic is forcing the world to slow down. We can chafe against this. Or we can use the slowness as a way to reboot our lives.

Don’t know about you, but I prefer Option 2.

Here are five ways to put the global slowdown to good use:

  1. Rediscover the joys of small, simple, unhurried pursuits. Actually, this is already happening. In homes across the globe, people in lockdown are playing board games, baking bread, reading books, making art and music, cooking from scratch, learning to play instruments.
  2. Reconnect face to face with the people who matter most to you. Face to face at home or virtually over the Web.
  3. Relearn the lost art of rest, daydreaming, doing nothing or just sleeping enough.
  4. Reflect on the big questions that so often get brushed aside in the headlong dash of daily life. Such as: Am I living the life I really want to be living? Where do I want to be 10 years from now? What can I change to be a better friend, parent, partner, employee?
  5. Find ways to help those less fortunate than you. If this pandemic can teach us anything it’s that the world is a better place when we all look out for each other. Or, as the old proverb goes: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

Nothing like a crisis to focus the mind on what really matters. Especially a crisis that forces us to get back in touch with our inner tortoise.

Good luck to you all!

12 Złotych Zasad dla Ludzi, Którzy się Starzeją (czyli dla Wszystkich)

1. Nie przestawaj się uczyć i eksperymentować. Powiedzenie „starego psa nowych sztuczek nie nauczysz” jest nieprawdziwe nawet w odniesieniu do psów. Nowe zajęcia i zainteresowania chronią nas przed zgnuśnieniem.

2. Buduj i podtrzymuj mocne więzi.

3. Inspiruj się ludźmi, którzy mogą służyć za wzór. Pomyśl o Helen Mirren, Davidzie Attenborough, a nawet o Michale Aniele, który z osiemdziesiątką na karku odbudowywał Bazylikę św. Piotra.

4. Utrzymuj ciało i mózg w dobrej kondycji dzięki ruchowi oraz właściwej diecie.

5. Ucz się od Marie Kondo. Jeśli cokolwiek – praca, przyjaźń itd. – przestaje być źródłem radości, daj sobie z tym spokój. Życie jest zbyt krótkie, by je trwonić.

6. Znajdź sobie cel, który wypełni twoje życie treścią i rozpali w tobie ogień.

7. Mów, ile naprawdę masz lat. Kłamiąc, dajesz metryce władzę nad sobą i utrwalasz mit, że młodszy znaczy lepszy. Jeśli chcemy być szczęśliwi w dojrzałym wieku, na początek musimy przestać się go wstydzić.

8. Bądź elastyczny(-a) i otwarty(-a) na zmiany, rozwój, ewolucję. Jak pisał Laozi: „Kto jest miękki i uległy, ten jest uczniem życia. To, co twarde i sztywne, będzie złamane. To, co miękkie i giętkie, przeważy”.

9. Nie słuchaj tych, którzy twierdzą, że miłość, seks i flirt są zarezerwowane dla młodych. Nie ma powodu, abyś nie cieszył(a) się nimi w każdym wieku, jeśli tylko masz ochotę.

10. Jeśli uwierzysz w to, że na starsze lata nie czeka cię w życiu nic dobrego, wpadniesz w pułapkę samospełniającej się przepowiedni. Myśl pozytywnie, skupiaj się na zaletach dojrzałego wieku, takich jak bycie w zgodzie ze sobą, głębsze relacje z ludźmi, więcej szczęścia, altruizmu, kreatywności, wiedzy, doświadczenia.

11 Pielęgnuj w sobie poczucie humoru. Śmiech krzepi i sprzyja długowieczności. Jak pisał George Bernard Shaw: „Nie jest tak, że człowiek przestaje się śmiać, gdy się starzeje. Starzeje się, gdy przestaje się śmiać”.

12. Pamiętaj o śmierci. Nie myśl o niej obsesyjnie, ale też nie uciekaj przed tą myślą. Świadomość, że nasz czas jest skończony, nadaje życiu kształt i sens – i motywuje nas do chwytania każdej chwili.

It’s high time the fashion and beauty industries stopped treating ageing like a disease, or as a shameful act of surrender or failure. It is none of the above. It is the most natural thing in the world and we all do it. Every day.

Thanks to increased longevity, many of us can now look forward to living past 80. And yet anxiety about looking older usually kicks in around the age of 30. Result: we spend half a century feeling bad about ageing.

Which is absurd.

So it’s a relief to see the dial starting to move, ever so slightly, towards celebrating faces and bodies of all ages in the world of fashion and beauty. Especially for women, who usually pay a higher price than men do for looking older.

Check out Chapter 8 in my latest book, BOLDER: MAKING THE MOST OF OUR LONGER LIVES, for more on this long-overdue shift in thinking.

My new TED TALK …

My new TED Talk has dropped. It’s about ageing and ageism.

Check it out. Join the conversation. Share it around.

All Under One Roof

One of the best ways to combat ageism (and tackle the housing crisis) is to get different generations living together under the same roof.

I wrote about this in my latest book, BOLDER. Heartening to see more and more examples sprouting here, there and everywhere.

Say No to the Cult of Hustle

You don’t have to work a 100-hour week to succeed in business. You don’t have to join the Elon Musk School of Masochism to make it. Even in the start-up world.

Just ask Tobi Lutke, founder CEO of Shopify:

“I’ve never worked through a night… and I’m home at 5:30pm every evening.”